When you are not working, when nothing needs your attention, how does that feel? For a lot of accomplished women, the honest answer is uncomfortable, even guilty. In EP21, Kristy makes the case that this discomfort is not about poor boundaries or a packed calendar. It is about identity.

She walks through landmark 2026 research on the “doer identity”, a sense of self built around the act of doing itself, formed in childhood and quietly running the show decades later. She explains the three profiles the researchers identified, why standard workplace fixes keep missing the mark, and why so many women in leadership are eldest daughters. Then she offers three practical shifts, including the reframe she uses most with her coaching clients: capability as a gift, not a debt. You were not born to overwork. You were trained to. And training can change.